How many negative labels have you used to describe yourself in the past year?
No matter their source whether external influences or internal struggle. Self-love allows us to start fresh by wiping clean the damage of negative thoughts. Imagine all that free headspace you'll have to focus on the ones you love and the community around you.
"Be yourself, everyone else is taken."
Taking care of both mental and physical health for they affect each other.
A year ago I was asked to blog about the importance of self-love so you would think I've been living without self-doubt, fear, or guilt. But self-hate is tempting when we allow circumstances fix our minds on a negative thought pattern. Self-love also requires the application of self-care. The times I neglect to properly care for my health condition I notice an immediate increase in symptoms of depression. That's when I access my routine and apply the self-care needed to regain my confidence and overcome fears.
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I would love to see Reckless Resale celebrate this time of year not only as a time for romantic love, but a little Self-love TOO!
Sometimes life moves at a stressful pace and our brains are constantly under pressure. But consider the benefits of allowing ourselves just one more "minute" when we find ourselves in an overwhelming activity and we just need a little longer for all neurotransmitters to catch up with surrounding circumstances. That "minute" of self-care may make all the difference.
Who wouldn't benefit from one more minute to
Accessories and graphic t-shirt available in our Poshshop!
Truth is, I experienced one of the most difficult years I've ever known in 2018. Around March of last year, inflammation settled in my muscles and joints and I was at a loss on how to relieve the crippling symptoms. This condition also affected my anxiety and depression and made progress seem impossible.
Never one to give up easily, I fought back against the symptoms. Doctors tried to relieve them with more and more medications and all test results came back inclusive. Finally, with perseverance, a healthful cleanse and experimenting with a diet of inflammatory foods, I am experiencing better health and have hope that I may regain full recovery this year.
So to kick off the new year I'm sharing with you a line of clothing I'm curating to draw attention to the importance of self-care and self-love. More products are in development, so please subscribe to our email list and stay connected!
Thank you for your support, I appreciate it more than you know! Gwen
Remember, you are enough!
This weekend Poshfest is celebrating their sixth annual seller celebration in Dallas, Texas. I could not attend this year, but was fortunate that is was held in Chicago last year. I attended and was so overwhelmed with information, that I never posted about it, just got to work.
In 2017 the prevailing theme I carried away from the fest was "You do you, Bo" and "Level up." And although I'm pathetically still in the process of learning "do me," I did take advantage of the opportunity to level up. That's when the luxe denim entered our store, and what a journey that turned out to be!
If you've come across this post and don't know what Poshmark is, check out my girl from Healthy Girl Fashion as she explains it:
If you've never visited Pohsmark, please do so and join with my code, NELYS for $5 off your first purchase!
Here are some pics from last years Poshfest. I'll be there next year, don't want to miss another! See the entire album on their FB page, HERE.
Since going natural, my hair is showing more signs of being salt and pepper (in back) but still contains a large splash of the golden blond that I've worn since high school. Have you considered what happens when your hair color changes in the middle of your favorite fashion season? In this case, fall fashion?
Well, it means that the warm shades of brown, tan, and camel just don't look the same as they used to, because I had been clinging to a color and style no longer suited for my life style.
So, when packing recently for a trip, I attempted to fill my suitcase with new colors in shades of gray, denim, and ruby red. I'd have to say the new colors are proving to be more complimentary that I'd every anticipated. This pic was snapped by my husband as we waited for a crossing parade. The oversize black glasses were a fun balance for my now very short hair and the colors complimented my skin tone well.
Finding the right shade to compliment your skin and hair can do more to elevate confidence than any of the latest trends.
Shop your own closet first for colors that compliment, then consider adding more as you build your own collection. Many resale shops divide their tops by color to get you started.
Whether a young woman on the go or aging graceless like me, we would love to support you on your color journey. Hashtag us at #recklessresale if posting pics of your fall fashion color story, we love to support creatives of any style!
Oh, and all those colors I can no longer wear? They are for sale this season in our Poshshop along with many other pretty warm colors to compliment this season.
Receive $5 off your first purchase anywhere on Poshmark when you sign up with code NELYS, and happy poshing.
Last year my handsome husband of 28 years decided to go natural and having dyed his hair since a serious foot injury brought on premature graying at the age of 40, he really wanted to reduce the stress of trying to look younger. The result was a success and he literally went from being my long hair hunk to a silver fox for sure.
So, after some consideration I decided to join him on the path to natural hair which would mean using less hair products in the long run, reducing our carbon footprint again, so why not?
My original intent was to grow out my hair long enough, so I could cut into one of the signature bobs that I've been wearing since childhood. Sometimes the bob was longer than shorter, sometimes it was asymmetrical, but almost always in the same style. Unfortunately, the growing bob created a type of halo containing my natural growth with the color treated ends below gradually becoming dry and unruly.
The lowest point of my journey was captured digitally while visiting friends in Michigan. My generalized inflammation was so great at the time, I found it difficult to style my hair, so it was a mess. I had just finished a second-round steroids which made me bloat and feel awful, so I was feeling monstrous. When our Michigan guest took us to Sister Lakes Brewing Company for dinner, I found it profoundly significant when greeted by a huge Sasquatch garden statue on their patio. Was this an omen? If so, not a good one.
Fighting to regain my health I fought through the fog of depression with prayer and meditation. I had family and friends praying for me too. But the problem with my hair weighed on me and my unwillingness to let go of a style that I must have subconsciously considered part of my identity.
I had only two choices: keep growing it out or get it cut. Growing it out was my original plan, but it meant waiting.
Enter my amazing hair stylist, Anne. I showed her a few pics and ideas and she made it clear that she was not going to be able to remove all the color treated hair but would do her best. She suggested a shorter version of my usual bob, but something inside of me knew that was not going to help move me forward, so I told her this:
The blond bob was my mom hair, my drama teacher hair. What I need now is something fashion forward, something different, something that will inspire me experiment with new styles without being held back by old habits.
Of course, when she was complete, and I looked in the mirror with mixed feelings. What had I done! This is the shortest cut I've ever had in my entire life. I suddenly didn't feel like myself. I spent the next day on the phone with my mother crying like Anne of Green Gables about her lost tresses.
But, remembering my initial goal of reducing the number of products used in my hair helped me focus again on the importance of self-love and giving myself grace to express the emotions that arose with this next step in life.
Now, I've got a fun style that looks great with tall collars and scarves so I'm very excited to be rocking this hair style during the beautiful fall fashion season. Will I keep it this short? Who knows. But I've learned to trust my instincts, trust the professionals, and that any decision to lighten your carbon footprint and reduce stress is a journey worth taking.
Go with me!
Shop our Poshshop for alternative fashion styles for reckless women of all sizes and any color hair, natural, blond or even blue.
Have you ever looked at a garment three different times and think it has no value, but there's something that just captures your imagination? I found this cute top (or maybe it found me) at a chic resale shop in Rochester, Michigan during my last visit to Troy.
This air-brushed, tie dye, oversized, obscure print (is it floral, is abstract?), must be a one of a kind top find did just that for me. The super soft fabric and ladies cut in this super print just kept me returning to the hanger from where it was displayed.
Upon research, the brand and designer is Marika Charles, a company from upstate New York that creates their own prints on natural fibers. Just the kind of brand RR loves to promote! So, it returned with me to our studio in Midlothian.
My next challenge was how to style it? Like our vintage items, I like to demonstrate how to style difficult prints like this one, but holding it up to our boutique closet I realized I had not planned for what to match this with.
The print alone is striking. But a great print, especially one of this size, would look even better framed with the right accessories. And its light weight natural fibers will breath nicely under the layers. On searching our fall collection, I tried several combinations but didn't give up. Something had to match.
After mixing colors of similar hue and fabrics of similar weights, I found a color combination I love! The Cabi Safari Jacket in sage green, a crepe blanket scarf in soft peach, and a bracelet in the same golden yellow popping out from the print and silver belt buckle closure for added texture.
When you come across a difficult print in your closet, don't give up mixing and matching fabrics, textures and even additional prints until you find a combination that pops for you!
Always shop your closet first, and Reckless Resale second!
Be reckless, wreck less.
We spent a morning in Tinley Park, IL this weekend where we visited our favorite farmer's market and I tested out this vintage Union made polyester shirt with short sleeves, button-down, retro plaid top in Millennial Pink and gray. Pairing it with skinny crop jeans and my red summer sandals gave the ensemble the pop it needed to work. Added a pair of retro sunglasses and a straw market bag and it worked. I loved the texture of the soft fabric so smooth to the tough, but it was just a little too small so it's now getting ready to get its picture taken and added to our Poshshop.
Designer, Beth Dreyer, from Fabulous Fleece and More has a square at the Tinely Park Farmers Market. I fell in love with her cotton pillowcases in cute designs and have been purchasing and testing several of her products this summer. Now, she is collaborating with Reckless Resale on the design of our own market bag! She shared a prototype with us this weekend and we gave it a debut at Mariano's. Because it's in development, I can't give you all the dets except that it contains a divider that helps keep things separate without having to carry a second bag. I personally like this feature and something I've not seen this in this style bag.
Beth has been a small business owner for years and counts emotional compensation as a social reward of selling in small communities. The depth of that wisdom is something I'd like to attract to Reckless Resale. We're on a journey here and are meeting some amazing people along the way. It's going to be a walk to remember.
Little finds from our farmers market and garden!
It's been one year since we released the brand name, Reckless Resale. What started as needing a good side hustle, became a creative opportunity to pursue our eco centered life style. Using our skills from theater and costuming combined with our thrifty mid-West, South Suburban resources, we knew we could provide a quality and unique product online.
Enter Poshmark. A super simple, ultra social, fashion only platform for selling and buying the fashions we collect and curate.
We had an early celebration of these accomplishments with acstyled photo shoot with Hannah and Becca and newly introduced to RR, Niara.
We'll share more of our pretty pics as we move toward our fall launch in September and looking forward to another year of working with Posh and selling online. Shop with us on Poshmark or on Facebook!
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Model: Becca Morello: @beccamorello
Model & Makeup: Hannah Bielicki @hannah_Bielicki
Model: Niara K Gadlin @niara____
Photographer: Sharon Dickey @wildthings98
Stylist: Gwen Bielicki @gwenbielicki
We recycled exactly what was offered by our township refuse pickup service. But we knew we were overdue for breaking our habits on plastic bag usage. But in August of 2016, after an over rushed shopping trip, we were forced to examine our shopping habits and adopt cleaner habits, asap!
Despite our attempt to bring a canvas bag or ask for "paper" at the checkout (both of which we did) was a mute gesture toward eliminating the problems of plastics in our water. Unpacking our market bags, we looked at the plastic wrapped cucumbers, and every item we had selected placed in separate produce bags. All completely unnecessary, as most of these vegetables over-ripen when placed in plastic.
We are working on solutions for these problems like creating smaller market bags for easier transport, in recycled and/or waterproof fabrics, with a variety of styles. Hang with us as we work to bring more options to our community.
Check out more about International Plastic Bag Free Day for more ideas on how to make a difference today!
Author: Gwen Bielicki
curvy girl stylist, Posh Ambassador, aging gracelessly
Alternative apparel for curvy girls with edges.
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